Jen Sincero is a #1 New York Times bestselling author of You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life. Here are 10 lessons I learned from her book. For more information, you can find the book on Amazon.
“Nothing in this world is permanent, including our stories. Yet we try to hold on to them for false security, which ultimately leads to sorrow and loss. Be willing to let go. Keep reinventing your story as you continue to grow.
If you made the decision that you were going to reach your goals, you would do whatever it took. If you merely wanted to, but hadn’t made the firm decision to, you’d roll over and begin convincing yourself that your life is fine just the way it is.
If we don’t have a strong connection to the truth- we live in an abundant universe, we are awesome, glorious and tear jerking-ly loveable, etc. – a blazing desire, an unflinching belief in our own vision before it’s manifest, we’ll fall prey to our own fears that it’s not possible and give up, instead of course-correction or pushing on through and bringing it to life.
Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm- Winston Churchill
If you were sick of feeling fat and unsexy and out of shape and the only time you could make it to the gym was at 5 AM on freezing winter mornings when you were all snuggly in bed, would you go? If you made the decision that you were going to reach your goals, you would do whatever it took. If you merely wanted to, but hadn’t made the firm decision to, you’d roll over and begin convincing yourself that your life is fine the way it is.
If you’re wired for making instant decisions, practice tuning into your intuition and fully trusting what it says (regardless of what your brain may be screaming about). Get quiet, listen for and feel into the answer, and practice acting on your first, solid impulse.
And whoever you are, please, stop saying how pathetic you are at making decisions. Erase the phrase "I don’t know” from your vocabulary and replace it with, “I'll know what to do soon enough.” Decide to the become the person who makes quick, smart decisions and you will.
Making money isn’t only about the money, just as losing weight isn’t only about losing weight and finding your soulmate isn’t only about finding your soulmate. It's about who you become and what you believe is possible for yourself.
If you're single, it's not about boo-hooing the fact that you can't find someone good or half-heartedly forcing yourself to go on a million dates. It's about keeping your desire strong and your faith unwavering, brushing your hair and teeth, leaving the house, flirting your ass off, joyfully going about your life and being grateful that not only is the person you’re seeking also seeking you, but that The Universe is conspiring to bring you together.
Doubt is resistance, faith is surrender. Worry is resistance, joy is surrender. Control is resistance, allowing is surrender. Ridicule is resistance, believing is surrender.